The worst thing you can do to yourself and your motivation, is to remain in a job that you absolutely hate. I know, because I’ve been there, multiple times. A bad job is like a bad partner. They drag you down, make you doubt yourself, hate yourself, wonder why you don’t deserve better, and on and on. It’s a nasty cycle. If you find yourself in this cycle, you need to break it ASAP and say goodbye to your current job.
Been There, Done That
When I say I’ve been there, I have been there. I worked for a startup where there were many work weeks that turned into 80 hour weeks. The CEO wasn’t someone you could recommend things to. He had his own way or it was the highway. So if deadlines weren’t feasible, it didn’t matter. They still had to be met. Unfortunately, I was a junior developer and I needed the experience. Most often, I pushed through. But the 80 hour weeks were dreadful. With little sleep, the brain shutting down, forcing myself to constantly work further into the next day, and then failing to concentrate were all symptoms of this underlying issue. I spent less time with friends and my significant other and more time with my job and computer.When I would get home, I would plop down on the couch and do nothing except lay there like a zombie. This was what being overworked was like.
I don’t regret it though. I needed the experience and I needed to prove to myself that I could work hard when things get tough. And I did exactly that. I gained a lot of experience and learned quite a lot while I was there. Leaving the job didn’t cross my mind until I started waking up, hating that it was a work day and that I had to head into the office (my commute was around 45 minutes by car). I was hating the fact that I wasn’t motivated, sometimes staring blankly at the screen because I didn’t have the brainpower to be creative anymore. It was all becoming a drag and I wanted out. So I did. I got out. I found myself another job and went on my merry way.
The Struggle of Moving On From Your Job
For me, it was easy. I could easily see the physical and mental health repercussions. But there are people who don’t and they can’t leave or don’t want to leave. I have a friend with a job that eats her soul every day. Yes, she has good days, but 90% of the time, she’s got storms to calm and work up to her eyeballs. To put it gently, there should be three people for the amount of work that she has to do by herself. I can see how all of this has an effect on her relationship with work, husband, friends, and her life. It’s not good. And yet, why does she stay?
It could be pride, it could be workaholicism, the fear of not being prepared for another job, or it could be the fear of looking for something else. Who knows? Everyone has their own reasons, and I’m not going to dive into them and the psychology of it all. The only thing I can say, is if your job is soul crushing, then you’re crazy for staying in it! If you hate your job, if you don’t want to get up and go to work, if you loathe your work days…and are still working there, then quit.
There’s no point in dragging yourself through the unnecessary pain if there are other jobs out there that you love. Are you afraid that you’ve been at your job for too long, that you don’t think you can find another one? Do you think that the new job will be worse?Are you worried about getting paid a little less? What is really stopping you? It’s important to take a moment and evaluate what is preventing you from saying ‘sianora’ and leaving. Whatever the reasons are, I bet you 99% of them are B.S. The only thing, in most cases, that’s preventing you from leaving the terrible job is… dum dum dum, you!
Take a Chance, Go be Happy
You are most likely the #1 reason you haven’t left that job yet. You are the one who creates all of the fears and complexes about leaving. But do you know what? You will never, ever know if there is anything better out there if you don’t try. What’s the harm in applying to new jobs, looking for new opportunities and even taking that new position? What’s the worst that could happen? You could end up in an equally terrible job… or, you could end up with your dream job or at a company with amazing perks or something else that makes it worth it. You could be better off, you just need to first try…
So don’t be like my friend, who’s got more headaches than she needs at a job that literally sucks. Take the courage to open up that job search, press apply and get going. We’ve all been there, where it’s the end of the line for our patience and sanity. It’s a sign and I believe in listening to your intuition. So should you. You have it for a reason. You have it because you want to be happy. All you need to do is take the first step. <3